{"id":971,"date":"2014-06-07T17:51:00","date_gmt":"2014-06-07T17:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/?page_id=971"},"modified":"2022-01-15T17:18:17","modified_gmt":"2022-01-15T17:18:17","slug":"whensomeonehasnotknownlove","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/whensomeonehasnotknownlove\/","title":{"rendered":"whensomeonehasnotknownlove"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When someone has not known <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/allwritingisconfession\">love<\/a> it is difficult for him to trust that mutual satisfaction and <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/ikeeptryingtocapture\">growth<\/a> can be the primary foundation in a coupling <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/shewasmarried\">relationship<\/a>. He may only understand and believe in the dynamics of <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/thefemaleprinciple\">power<\/a>, of one-up and one-down, of a <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/sexwasinmybody\">sadomasochistic struggle<\/a> for domination, and ironically, he may feel \u201csafer\u201d when he is operating within these paradigms. Intimate with betrayal, he may have a phobic <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/somethingsubversive\">fear of trust<\/a>. At least when you hold to the dynamics of power you never have to fear the unknown; you know the rules of the <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/imnomadman\">power game<\/a>. Whatever happens, the outcome can be predicted. The practice of love offers no place of safety. <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/theworldissocrammedwithpeople\">We risk loss, hurt, pain<\/a>. We risk being acted upon by <a href=\"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/loveisalwaysshifting\">forces outside our control<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.allaboutbell.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">bell hooks<\/a>, All About Love<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When someone has not known love it is difficult for him to trust that mutual satisfaction and growth can be the primary foundation in a coupling relationship. He may only understand and believe in the dynamics of power, of one-up and one-down, of a sadomasochistic struggle for domination, and ironically, he may feel \u201csafer\u201d when [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":103,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/971"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=971"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/971\/revisions"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=971"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}