{"id":889,"date":"2014-06-07T15:22:59","date_gmt":"2014-06-07T15:22:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alfabus.us\/?page_id=889"},"modified":"2022-01-15T17:19:09","modified_gmt":"2022-01-15T17:19:09","slug":"loveisajointexperience","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/madness-has-its-reasons\/loveisajointexperience\/","title":{"rendered":"loveisajointexperience"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

First of all, love<\/a> is a joint experience between two persons; but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved. There are the lover and the beloved, but these two come from different countries<\/a>. Often the beloved is only a stimulus for all the stored-up love<\/a> which has lain quiet within the lover for a long time hitherto. And somehow every lover knows this. He feels in his soul<\/a> that his love is a solitary thing. He comes to know a new, strange loneliness and it is this knowledge which makes him suffer. So there is only one thing for the lover to do. He must house his love within himself as best he can; he must create for himself a whole new inward world<\/a>; a world intense and strange, complete in himself. Let it be added here that this lover about whom we speak need not necessarily be a young man saving for a wedding ring;this lover can be man, woman, child, or indeed any human creature on this earth […]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is for this reason that most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt truth is that, in a deep<\/a> secret way, the state of being beloved is intolerable to many. The beloved fears and hates the lover, and with the best of reason. For the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover<\/a> craves any possible relation with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Carson McCullers<\/a>, The Ballad of the Sad Caf\u00e9<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

First of all, love is a joint experience between two persons; but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved. There are the lover and the beloved, but these two come from different countries. Often the beloved is only a stimulus […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":103,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/889"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=889"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/889\/revisions"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alfabus.us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=889"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}